
My week has been another crazy one, I am sure many of you can relate...
After a post I wrote here about a year ago, Sandra McCartt asked me if I ever wondered if I wasn't "born under the sign of a turd."
Frankly, yes - I have wondered that and often. But then I look around and realize that bad luck is all relative. It's the whole "one man's junk is another man's treasure" scenario. Life can suck and usually does. But it all depends on how you look at it.
I work hard. I play hard. And I really just want the simplest of things: I just wanna be happy - and I just want my children to be happy. I have never cared to be rich - just wanted enough to get by. I never wanted to be famous - unless it meant I was accepting an Oscar at a televised awards ceremony. And I never wanted to rule the world - just my own family or my own business. Relative is relative, I know.
If you get a splinter, what do you have to do? Well, you can leave it alone, it will most likely fester and become bothersome or worse, infected. Then you could take an antibiotic and the infection will go away, but it will still be bothersome. The most logical solution is to bite the bullet and dig out the splinter. That's what I usually do anyway. It's kind of like taking care of that zit in the middle of your forehead - everyone's gotta do what they gotta do.
Sometimes, the splinter still gets infected or the zit comes back. It's easy (and even feels good sometimes) to cry about it, whine about, scream about it, stomp your feet about it, or even throw things. I've done them all. But the best thing is to remove it - again.
Your splinter might be a family feud or an ex-spouse. It might be a cranky and unsatisfied boss or client. It might be a difficult project or recruitment. It might be a tax or IRS issue or simply finding work. Or, it could be a car accident you can't forget.
But do what you can to find peace or simple happiness. That may mean forgiving or forgetting. It may mean simply letting go. It isn't easy - it can be downright hard. And trust me, I can be stubborn and want to hang on to anger or hurt. It's so much easier to do than letting go and, gulp, experiencing growth. Damn, I hate it when that happens.
How about this? I'll try if you try.
Have a great weekend!
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Rayanne Thorn, @ray_anne is the Marketing Director for the online recruiting software company, Broadbean Technology. She is also a proud mother of four residing in Laguna Beach, California, and a daily contributor for Blogging4Jobs. Connect with her on LinkedIn.
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Permalink Reply by John Kreiss on November 22, 2011 at 10:57am Interesting analogies. Most people would probably confront the ssplinter or zit problem right away, but many of those same people, including many recruiters, make excuses when other problems come up.
"A candidate decides to turn down an offer, and that's why my billings are horrible. It's not fair. Poor me."
Things aren't always fai in life. Get over it. Find another candidate. Increase billings, move on, and feel better as a result of actions you can control!!!!
Permalink Reply by Rayanne on November 22, 2011 at 11:47am A recruitment/search isn't complete until the placement actually contributes to the organization - anything prior is just winding up the bat to take a swing. We often celebrate too early. Yes, the sendout is big, yes, a second interview is even bigger. Negotiating the offer and acceptance? HUGE. Showing for the first day? Heaven.
But after they complete the guarantee period and become a retained contributing employee? Time to toast and cheer and take a a deep breath.
This job isn't easy - it isn't for the faint of heart or the easily agitated, irritated or exacerbated...
It is for those with ambition, strategic thought, and desire for continual turmoil and change. Pretty darn exciting, eh?
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