Now, Is that Appropriate Language?

I may be shaking a few trees today. Or stirring a few pots. Or even whacking a few beehives with a big, fat stick. But guess what? I'm not afraid. Like the Wright Brothers, I'm letting it fly.

I can't help it..., I have held it in long enough. As a matter of fact, it is ready to bust out of me like Pillsbury Biscuit dough when it pops out of the can. While it is true that I am a firm believer that words only have the power you give them, and while I might not be the first one to say or even scream a swear word or two (when I know my audience and they know me), I find it completely abhorrent to let your favorite one-syllable shocker loose in writing whenever your little ol' heart desires.

I am supposing that it is alright for me to be of this opinion and share it loud and clear since there are those that think I am alright with the vulgarities that fly through certain posts. This "style" of writing isn't authentic. It certainly isn't respectful. It really doesn't take much thought or creativity to riddle a post with some poorly chosen words. And it degrades most professionals that work within this so-called profession that that we love. It just really isn't very fetching. I know I'm not Cinderella at the ball, but I really don't want to kill the music at the dance before the Prince is smitten.

Perhaps you think it's cool to write this way or even way cool to read. But does your client or your boss? What about that potential client or potential boss? I know, I know: it's real, it's genuine. Maybe, but would your mother want to read it? I suppose there are some moms that would be ok with it. And how cool is that.., because words only have the power that you personally give them - and yes, I know I already gave that argument. That's kind of the point. There really is no valid argument for the use of foul language in a post or online discussion.

Really, what are you? In eighth grade? Use your words, big words, for pity's sake (and I do mean pity.) Would you tell a client to pay their f-in invoice? Would you litter a proposal or contract agreement with four-letter gems, allowing a potential client to see the "real you," the bona fide you? Because that is business in the new millennium. For I do what I want, gosh darn it.

Again, I am not perfect and given the right circumstance, I will say almost any swear word. Didja hear me? I'm not claiming to be anything other than someone who cares about my audience. All of my audience. Especially given the fact that we are professionals and address other pros within the HR industry. Would you use that type of language during an interview with a major candidate or during a new employee orientation? How about during a professional reference interview?

Maybe you do and maybe you are really good at it. If you do and you are, please disregard this post; it wasn't meant for you anyway.

by rayannethorn

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Permalink Reply by Jerry Albright on October 20, 2009 at 7:38am

Good one Rayanne.

So it's not just me then? Great! I've been watching as foul language just keeps creeping in to the day-to-day business world.

There is a time and place for (nearly) everything.

Vulgarity has no place outside the dorm room, pool hall or backyard shindig. While one might say it's authentic - I say it shows a complete lack of tact, etiquette and professionalism.

P.S. I have been known to cuss. Frequently at times. Just not when anyone (important) is listening!

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Permalink Reply by Mervyn Dinnen on October 20, 2009 at 8:10am

Great point Rayanne.

In my personal experience, people who use swear words in a business context usually either know that they have a weak case, or weak point to make, and hope that a swear word will have the effect of giving their case more force or weight...or they are relatively ineffectual leaders/negotiators who mistake force and shock for influence.

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Permalink Reply by Greg Savage on October 20, 2009 at 8:23am

Agreed Rayanne. I swear. I admit it. But not in writing. And certainly not online. I wrote a post on a related topic here about how people destroy their personal brands with this type of behavior http://gregsavage.com.au/?p=504

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Permalink Reply by Fran Hogan on October 20, 2009 at 8:39am

I would love to have the chance to meet you someday Rayanne. Your posts always make me say "me too, me too! That's what I think!". You are spot on once again.

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Permalink Reply by Rayanne on October 20, 2009 at 12:00pm

Thanks for the support..., I have to admit that I was very nervous about posting this. The type of posting I am referencing is becoming more and more prevalent. And I worried maybe I was a lone reed; glad to know I'm not...

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Permalink Reply by Laura Vezer on October 20, 2009 at 1:07pm

I love your posts, Rayanne. They are so eloquent, effective, and a joy to read. Good one! And Jerry is right - there is a time and a place for everything.

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Permalink Reply by Recruiting Animal on October 20, 2009 at 1:38pm

Have to admit that I liked Maren's comment.

Quote:
> Thanks Rayanne for busting out about this. You're right.
> "I try not to cuss online, although.... We say "crap" and
> "blows" and "fart" and "butt" and "sucks" in our house"

Rayanne wrote:
> The type of posting I am referencing is becoming more and more prevalent.

A few examples? Wouldn't have hurt.
I only know the punk rocker likes to swear now and then
but who else?

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Permalink Reply by Recruiting Animal on October 20, 2009 at 1:53pm

Maren said:
> Well those are not cuss words to me but they are to say...my sister in law.

Well, I'm willing to defer to @Jerry_albright and @Ray_anne
They can be the Prefects of the Recruitosphere

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Permalink Reply by Jerry Albright on October 20, 2009 at 2:02pm

Full disclosure: I used the phrase "half-a$$ed" in a blog post. I thought it added shock value. I hope my mom didn't read it. I carry that mark with me to this day......

But the bad stuff? (The 7 words George Carlin spoke of....?) No way.

Recruiting Animal said:

Maren said:
> Well those are not cuss words to me but they are to say...my sister in law.

Well, I'm willing to defer to @Jerry_albright and @Ray_anne
They can be the Prefects of the Recruitosphere

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Permalink Reply by Jerry Albright on October 20, 2009 at 4:32pm

Sumbitch is fine. It's a little salty - but nothing to cause anyone to blush. I also like "sonsabitches" on occassion. But the "F" in any form or fashion has no place.

I think we all know how to play to our audience. I can blend in on either side of the aisle. The issue as I see it - is you have no idea who your audience is. Not knowing what eyes may land on your post should give anyone pause before hitting the OK button.

Fun topic. A fine piece Rayanne.

Sandra McCartt said:

So how would you all feel about "sumbitch". This gets funny when it starts. Defining what is and what is not vulgar or offensive. Would Dan's post "S*$t Happens be considered offensive. I never use the F word in front of a man of the cloth or anyone's mother unless they say it first, but does that include Freaken, or effen or fricken?

While i understand Rayanne's complaint here and most of us generally adhere to reasonable online writing are we talking about Scott's occassional "suck it". Just askin?

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Permalink Reply by Fran Hogan on October 20, 2009 at 4:35pm

You Texans have your own special way of cussing which sounds funny instead of vulgar. Then again you also have a way of saying innocent words and making them sound like cussing. My Texas girlfriend can make darm sound vulgar if she wants it too! If you write it the way you pronounce it than it probably won't offend anyone :-)

Sandra McCartt said:

So how would you all feel about "sumbitch". This gets funny when it starts. Defining what is and what is not vulgar or offensive. Would Dan's post "S*$t Happens be considered offensive. I never use the F word in front of a man of the cloth or anyone's mother unless they say it first, but does that include Freaken, or effen or fricken?

While i understand Rayanne's complaint here and most of us generally adhere to reasonable online writing are we talking about Scott's occassional "suck it". Just askin?

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Permalink Reply by Fran Hogan on October 20, 2009 at 4:53pm

To the grammarians - Sorry for the typo on too.

Fran Holm said:

You Texans have your own special way of cussing which sounds funny instead of vulgar. Then again you also have a way of saying innocent words and making them sound like cussing. My Texas girlfriend can make darm sound vulgar if she wants it too! If you write it the way you pronounce it than it probably won't offend anyone :-)

Sandra McCartt said:
So how would you all feel about "sumbitch". This gets funny when it starts. Defining what is and what is not vulgar or offensive. Would Dan's post "S*$t Happens be considered offensive. I never use the F word in front of a man of the cloth or anyone's mother unless they say it first, but does that include Freaken, or effen or fricken?

While i understand Rayanne's complaint here and most of us generally adhere to reasonable online writing are we talking about Scott's occassional "suck it". Just askin?