I totally don’t know what to do about this. I saw my boss and one of my workmates out on a date, although they didn’t see me. How do I know it wasn’t a business meeting? Let’s just say that things were a little steamy at the dinner table, and I’m not talking about the vegetables. I was shocked, because I had no clue at the office; to make things worse my boss’ wife is my best friend. This isn’t really the time to go looking for a new recruiting job, and I’d hate to lose a friend. What would you do?
Rock and a Hard Place
What would I do? Mind my own business for the moment, that’s what I’d do. And here’s why: other people’s relationships (married or otherwise) are a minefield into which you do NOT want to walk without a map. Things always blow up in the worst possible way, regardless of your intentions. I mean really, isn't managing your own relationships difficult enough?
Jumping into the middle of this mess at this moment
is a recipe for disaster on a big scale, because no matter what you say or to whom, you will lose. This is because (and we’ve talked about this before
), what people perceive strongly influences how they act, and at the moment you don't really know enough about the perceptions of everyone involved to set off the actions that will surely follow.
People do stupid things sometimes, even things that they regret later. This applies to your boss, your workmate, your best friend – even you. As long as the situation stays out of the work environment, do yourself a favor and stay out of your boss’ private life. The whole thing may fizzle out soon enough, and you’ll be glad you did.
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