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The Shattered Mirror of Unforgiveness
I was laid off a few weeks ago but am just blogging about it now. I guess I had to let it all sink in and have the seething feeling simmer away.
“We’re having cash flow problems,” She said. “She” being in caps as an off-handed way to refer to the Filipina owner of the company sans the use of her name. Like Elizabeth Edwards, the betrayed wife of John Edwards, failed vice-presidential candidate, I don’t feel like using the business owner’s name. Not for the purpose of protecting her identity… Oh, no…
When Oprah interviewed Mrs. Edwards, her condition for appearing on the show was that Rielle Hunter’s name, John Edwards’ “other” woman, would not be spoken on air. I “get” that. Even though Mrs. Edwards’ “higher self” intends to project forgiveness and resilience, there’s that human part of her that rears its imperfect self and refuses to acknowledge the existence of the woman that brought shame, pain and anguish to her seemingly ideal marriage.
I was pissed to get the news of my lay off, quite understandably.
But more pissed because just the day before I’d made a successful presentation to a potential big client, a client that would’ve been a rich source of referrals for her in-home health care company for seniors. This client would have been unreachable and inaccessible to “Her." “She” is incapable of articulating her business services in grammatically correct English. Can you feel my derision?
I was pissed to get laid-off yet again, twice within the past year. I can’t take any more of this. I’ve gone through enough already.
I was even more pissed because the week before I did a bang-up job giving a PowerPoint presentation to the Case Management department of a huge Napa hospital, a task she could never have accomplished on her own because of her deathly fear of public speaking. Couple that fear with her cringe-inciting English, why-a, that would’ve killed any future business referrals, for sure. Am I oozing bitterness?
Ghandi said that and he was right. Why do I think that pointing out the shortcomings of another would boost my own stature?
All I’m doing by demeaning someone else is painting an unflattering image of myself. It gives me momentary pleasure, for sure. Like loosening a valve and letting some steam escape. It may relieve the pressure but the heat could sear my own skin. How can I bear to look at this image of me spitting bile? Might as well walk around with snot and saliva dripping on my chin, wear tattered clothes and dirty underwear.
I’m glad I recognize the taste, smell, physical discomfort and ugliness of these human emotions. It serves as my internal guidance system for what I need to work on spiritually.
If truth be told, I’m more pissed at myself for having taken the job out of desperation. I have only myself to blame for selling out and giving my services away for “free.” From a six-figure income I allowed myself to accept a nothing-job so I could pay the rent. My anger towards her is nothing more than unforgiveness of self turned outward.
I forgive myself and resolve never again to diminish my own worth. I forgive myself for getting pissed off and externalizing it. I forgive myself for sounding ungrateful, however fleetingly. After all, the experience has opened my eyes and cracked open my heart. Sometimes the work of enlightenment means having to see your wholeness through the shattered glass of unforgiveness.
I Owe, I Owe…So Off To Work I Go!
I recently took a position as Marketing Director for ComForcare Senior Services, a private duty home health care agency focusing on elder care. While the title sounds hoity-toity, I suffered a severe hit in salary, with scanty potential for monetary rewards. But the upside is unquantifiable.
We can choose to experience the downside of the situation, or enjoy the upside. Traffic on my commute…
We can choose to focus on the withered tree, or see the beauty of the scenery…
We can bemoan the crushing bane of life, or praise the blessing on the vine…
When life looks like it's hurling one thing after yet another, we can always choose to see blessing after blessing. And so it always is.
"People do not seem to realize that their
opinion of the world is also a confession of character."
~~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Open Letter To A Friend
Hi Rox! My dear, dear Rox…
Take two. From the top.
How are you? I've been thinking about you all these years and wondering where you are, what you're up to, and so on. You know. Life. Stuff.
But first, I apologize for my delayed response. You must be a little p.o.’d. I mean, there I was, leaving a message at your company’s investor relations mailbox with a seemingly urgent message for you. A quick exchange of emails and then pfft! I disappear again.
I just started a new job and all my energies have gone into adjusting to a new schedule, a new routine, new responsibilities, a new industry. Hectic! I’m wiped out at the end of the day. And to be perfectly honest, facebook has pre-empted most of my free time.
Everyone's on facebook now. When I say everyone I mean all my friends from PWU, Maryknoll, UP, IMC, CCAC, UC, and every company I've worked. Elena, Kathy, Marlina, Reijoo, Tessa, Pompeii, Porge, et. al, and some of my PWU friends started posting things like, "Hey, where's Rox? Somebody find her."
Two high school friends actually started the buzz about you, and before I knew it, Chris had googled you, found you on linkedin and said, "Hey, Maya, I'm not connected with her so her email is not visible to me. Go find it!" Something like that.
So, my dear, you are terribly missed by everyone and much in demand! Needless to say, they were all disappointed when I told them you don't do facebook. They say someday you’ll see the light.
Congratulations on your great position, by the way! Vice President of GMA Worldwide, Inc. Wow! What an accomplishment. I always knew you had it in you to rise to the top (even though the first time I met you you had just dropped out from med school ;*-D ) Only good friends are allowed to tease each other that way, right?
Perhaps your job has travel perks and might take you to the bay area soon? Please come and let me know when you plan to be here. You're welcome to stay at my place.
Remember Sandra? She's been over a few times. I hear she's coming sometime in the summer. I'm sure we'll see each other when she's in town. Bob came over with Vicky sometime back (five years ago, maybe?) and she hasn't changed a bit. OMG, it's like she's stuck in a time capsule or something. Still obsessed over Vicky after all these years. OMG.
Are you in a relationship? I don’t know why I even ask. But of course you are. I've been single for what seems like a lifetime now. I guess I'm not into relationships after all. I've discovered that I don't have the patience to negotiate the highs and lows, peaks and valleys, freeways and crossroads of a joint journey. I like flying solo and don't have room for anyone’s baggage.
Sad? No. Sad only if one gets lonely, but loneliness is a dis-ease of disconnectedness, and I feel I'm always connected to friends, family and God.
God? What the fuck!?!?? Yes, Rox! God. But not in the Catholic sense. I’ve long since lifted the foggy veil of religiosity and discovered the bright light of my own inner divinty. I find bliss in spirituality and solitude.
So what the fuck happened to me, huh? ;*-)
Your turn. And don't you dare text me back with acronyms from your blackberry! C U S, BFF. Like that.
Love and everlasting friendship,
Maya
Mirror Of The Heart (2008 Remastered Album Version) - Lyle Mays
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- Maya Walker
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- San Francisco Bay Area
- State/Region (spell it out please, no abbreviations!):
- California
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- How do you introduce yourself to people you meet in business?
- What kind of networking are you open to?
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- Slouch
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- Corporate, Agency, Contract, Independent, Sourcer/Researcher, Recruiter, Virtual, Human Resources/staffing, Practitioner, Manager, Executive, Vendor/Consultant
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- More than 15 years
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Greetings to my beloved friends!
Half the year is almost over and my dearest wish for you is continued prosperity for the rest of the year ahead.
I'd love to share something with you and would love for you to check something out. It's called PeopleString and it's an up and coming web sensation.
PeopleString is a website and portal that allows you to check your email (gmail, yahoo, AOL, etc.), surf the net and pays you while you're doing it. It pays you to do lots of other stuff as well. What stuff? When you refer someone who joins, you get paid. When you answer surveys, you get paid. When you read junk mail, you get paid. When you buy online from their site, you get paid. These are things you already do anyway!
I've been doing due diligence on this company for the last three weeks now and have had a 1-on-1 talk with the CEO/Chief Technologist and the Chief Marketing Officer. They plan to go public by year's end. They have investor funding already. It's free to join. I've been exploring A LOT of these online marketing and online business programs because of the surging social media networking craze. I�m very deliberative, judicious and careful about making referrals but I�m convinced this is going to explode.
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If you need more information, please don�t hesitate to contact me. Thank you so much... you are all truly appreciated!
To your prosperity,
Maya Walker
mayawalker@peoplestring.com
For professional networking, please connect with me @ linkedin.
I am an open networker and will accept all invitation to connect. If you are asked to provide an email address, it is mayawalker@gmail.com
Maya Walker's Blog
Atheists In The Foxhole
Out of loyalty to the company who just axed you -- mind you! -- you put the best spin on the situation, not just as a face saving mecha… Continue
Posted on September 22, 2008 at 12:00am —
Dave, You Rule!
I had a personal emergency today and didn’t go online until almost 2 PM this afternoon. Lo and behold, there were over 200 linkedin invitations in my gmailbox! And the day isn’t over yet.
WOW! All thanks to Rock Star Recruiter Dave Mendoza, mover, shaker, kingmaker – or queenmaker, to be gender-exact. This phenomenon has nothing at all to do with me or my overnight popularity. Au contraire, it is a reflection of the leadership and strong sway of Dave Mendoza’s word… Continue
Posted on March 10, 2008 at 9:31pm — 6 Comments
And Audrey Was Her Name
The receptionist buzzed me and said, “Your 1 o’clock is here.”
I cleared my desk, minimized my screen, printed out her resume, checked to see if I had lipstick on my teeth, and got up to meet my candidate in the lobby.
A woman in a gray suit and pearls was seated demurely, reading an old issue of Fortune magazine. “Audrey? Hi, I’m Maya Walker. It's nice to meet you.” I greeted her warmly.
Audrey stood up and held out her hand. She was exceedingly tall. I’d say…hmm… 6’2”… Continue
Posted on March 7, 2008 at 12:30am — 5 Comments
Let There Be Light!
Daylight Saving Time begins at 2 AM this Sunday, March 9, 2008, as clocks move ahead by one hour.
Daylight Saving Time is the harbinger of spring for me. Days lengthen, skies brighten, moods lighten... and as spring approaches, a fresh res… Continue
Posted on March 5, 2008 at 7:25pm — 1 Comment
Customer Love & Diplomacy
Customer Love?
That sounds a lot like Dubya saying, “Too many OB-GYN’s aren't able to practice their love with women…”
We used to b… Continue
Posted on February 20, 2008 at 7:29pm — 6 Comments
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Just saw ur post on vincent's wall. I am from dhaka and am in business. Look forward to networking.. Ziaiitm@gmail.com
I am sorry, I have not been so good at keeping up with my LinkedIn. Thank you for allowing me to join your group. I just joined.
During this holiday season, I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for your continued partnership. It is business associates like you who make my job a pleasure and contribute to our success.
May your holidays, and new year, be filled with much joy, happiness and success. I look forward to working with you in 2009 and hope our association continues for years to come.
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I will come over and join your Linkedin group.
I enjoyed reading you. I love to hear other's stories in our ever so colorful industry. Cheers my friend.
Thanks for the invite to LIPW, it's an honor to join a group of successful women all networking on LI. If Dave calling me "groovy" is going to get me great connections like you, I suppose I will have to pay him for more comments on my page!!!
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Happy Networking,
Kristen
Welcome to the site and thank-you for accepting!
Anthony
Thank you very much for accepting RecruitingBlogs.com invitation. I have browsed your Profile with great interest and am glad to have connected with a successful executive/professional like you. Be well, do good work and keep in touch.
I am an Open Networker. Please feel free to invite me to your network or group/community.
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Sincerely,
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