Quite a few of you have asked for the Resignation Package. Here it is. As Lisa said, Jeff Skerteny (sp) is responsible for most of it:
DEAR MEAN, CRUEL AND NASTY BOSS"
Give notice as soon as you sign the offer. Pasted below is the
prescribed steps to follow
in your resignation process.
Candidates who have used this have found it quite helpful.
* A word about counter offers: Counter offers are made not because a
company likes you-its because they don't like your timing. NY Times article states that
75% of all those who accept counter offers leave that company within
The best time to give notice is in the afternoon
at about 4 PM. Then notice can be given and you won't have to spend the
rest of the day answering the boss's or co-workers' questions about
why you are leaving and where you are going.
Second, you will also need to write a letter of resignation and give
to your boss to open the resignation meeting. I use a very simple
four-sentence, two-paragraph letter of resignation that is direct
and to the point. The letter reads like this:
Dear Mean, Cruel and Nasty Boss,
Please accept this letter as my official notice of
resignation. I appreciate the work we have been able
to accomplish together at (company name), but I
now made a commitment to another organization, and
plan to begin with them in two weeks.
Know that it is my intention to work diligently
you to wrap up as much as possible in the next two
weeks to make my resignation as smooth as
If you have any suggestions on how we can best
accomplish that goal, I hope you will share your
thoughts with me, as I am eager to leave on the
most positive note possible.
The final item is the verbal icebreaker needed
to open the "giving notice" meeting. It is merely a
simple paraphrasing of the resignation letter. I
suggest that with the above letter in hand they
open their resignation meeting conversation by saying:
"Boss, I have made a commitment to join another
organization and will begin working with them in
two weeks. Please accept this, my letter of resignation.
I would ask that you to take a minute to read my
letter before we discuss together how we can make
my transition as smooth as possible."
I remind the resigning employee that almost every
boss in the world knows what is about to happen
when their employee walks into their office with an
envelope in their hand. The opening I provide them
gets right to the point without unnecessary small
talk. It also makes it clear that you are not
planning to talk about your decision to leave.
Instead, it is clear that what you plan to discuss
is the transition now that you have made a
commitment to leave. It makes the transition the
most important item to discuss in the conversation
that is about to occur.
The Next Step . . .
I have them send me a fax or email a copy of their letter of
resignation. Next, I ask them to call me so I can
coach them through some of the more difficult
aspects of this resignation meeting. My main goal
is to remind them that the conversation need not be
about where they are going and what they are doing
next. Rather it should focus on their transition
during the next two weeks. I tell them that every
time the boss asks anything not related to
ensuring a smooth transition, that they deflect the other
questions simply by saying:
"I know you may be curious about that, but it is
not my intention to discuss where I am going or why."
My decision is made, I have made a commitment to
another organization which I plan to keep. If it
is really important for you to know where I am going
and why, let's talk about it when it is not an
emotional issue for us, say a month from now.
Today, my goal remains to discuss how to make the
transition as smooth as possible."
To help my candidates feel comfortable about using
the above deflector, I ask them why it is that on
the day they give notice that suddenly their
opinions are so important to their boss? That
perspective usually reinforces that there is no
purpose to the resignation meeting except to leave
on as positive a note as possible through a
carefully-planned, smooth transition. That is the
resignation meeting's sole purpose.