Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.
There is an exercise I do with delegates on my management training courses which involves them splitting into pairs and working with their partner to identify how they both feel about certain types of people and it culminates with the delegates identifying two specific types of people – those they most hate in the world and those they most love.
The exercise is designed to highlight people’s inherent prejudices and illustrate the challenges of managing a team of individuals in an even handed manner.
What happens is that they start out discussing different characteristics and it’s all very logical and thoughtful and then it gets more emotional. Words come up that evoke stronger and stronger feelings until the delegates hit the jackpot and the type of people they really hate or love become clear because they react instinctively and strongly to the word that describes those people.
It’s a gut reaction to something, often on an unconscious level and comes from deep within them.
Having run this exercise many times it would seem that to arrive at that depth of understanding delegates always have to go on a mental journey using the initial words as steps towards the ultimate revelation.
And I think that’s what the quote is all about this week. It’s easy for other people to tell you what is important, what to aim for or how to be but those external answers only match what the other person thinks would be right for you.
You will get a much better answer of who or what to be by honestly, and deeply, looking into yourself. Exercise and fitness are good examples of this. It’s fair to say that most of us know that if we exercised more we would be healthier and fitter and indeed many of us will have dabbled with gym programs.
But very few of us will have stuck to them.
I suspect that often this is because it was other people who suggested we lose a few pounds or got fitter. That’s only going to work for a short time. You need to have a reason that is personal to you if you want your motivation to last in the face of the rigours of a fitness or diet regime.
Another person’s vision for you will always be a dream, a make believe acting role that they think suits you and that might be a long way from the role you truly want to play.
If you are serious about changing your life then you need to look deep inside yourself and move down through your initial thoughts until you find the emotional, burning core of your being which will then give you the true answers you seek.
I'd be fascinated to know when you've taken that emotional journey and reached a much stronger answer than the one you first thought of.
Please share your thoughts in the comments below.
Development Specialist, Edenchanges.com