Lists. Do we really need them? Do we need somebody else to tell us who’s the best in the business? Why would we need something like that. Aren’t we intelligent people; can’t we think for our selves? There are lists for lists, it seems. Yet, somehow, I am disturbed not that a Top Influencer list exists, but who these lists exclude.

Certainly, big mover and shaker publications can’t have “Everybody” lists. Then, the list would not be special. Recently, a list was created to applaud the top 25 recruiters. While I admire and respect the creator of that list, I was miffed who it excluded. It happened to exclude some of my favorite people; people who shaped the way I view the recruiting industry; people who’ve shown me the way. No, my feelings weren’t hurt. I feel very positive about the people who were included on the list. They are great folks. Their reach, relevance, and resonance can not be denied.

The power of positive recognition is compelling. What these lists don’t have is a heart for those worthy people they leave behind.

Every time one of these important lists are published, I just want to raise my hand, and say, hey what about that guy? I care about my friends, my mentors, my colleagues who I really believe should be on these lists. Then when I see they were short shifted, I feel so bad for them. I hope I never make it on one of those lists. I don’t know what I’d do if I did. I’d probably call my boyfriend and say, honey let’s get on the next train out of dodge, because I’m not up for a rubber chicken dinner.

Here’s me bleeding on the page for my colleagues. The irony is they could care less whether or not they make it on a list, or not. They are mature. Accolades are great when you get them. Lists might even be great when you make them. In the final analysis, we have to list ourselves.

We are the top influencer in our hearts, and when our hearts are pure and good, we influence those around us with love, kindness, and generosity. Ralph Waldo Emerson said it best:

"The definition of success–To laugh much; to win respect of intelligent persons and the affections of children; to earn the approbation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give one’s self; to leave the world a little better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition.; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm, and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived–this is to have succeeded."